Probably my biggest point is that those who promote the courtship/groups philosophy typically don’t acknowledge the problems this approach has caused but are quick to mention all the problems with dating.

Even in Josh Harris’s own church he gave a few messages to his church where he acknowledged that was a problem with how singles relate in his own church but so far hasn’t shared this problem on his blog. BTW the church he now pastors has been promoting groups/courtship in some form for over 30 years.

If nothing else, one should be willing to criticize this approach and be aware of its own landmines. Don’t assume it is perfect or superior. Also realize that what might be appropriate for teenagers (like Harris based his book on) might not be correct for older singles.

I am someone in my late 40′s who was involved in a few churches that used this approach and few in leadership were ever willing to admit its own problems.

Thanks again.